Sunday, August 10, 2014

How to pick yourself up when you're feeling sh*t

1) Socialise
As much as you think that you don't want to see anyone, and that all you want is to lay in bed and wallow in self pity, don't. Whether it be a movie night with your best friend, or a shopping spree with your mum, I firmly believe that when you're miserable and feeling crap, any company is good company. This is definitely a great way to take your mind off things if there's a particular situation weighing you down. This said, what I also find helpful is telling the other person about the issue. Yes, you may feel like a nonce saying 'I feel sad for no reason', but believe me, saying it out loud, rather than keeping all your thoughts trapped inside your head, is such a weight off your shoulders. This isn't about asking your friend to be a counsellor, just a good listener, who would't mind listening to you blab on for a half hour or so.

2) Change what you're listening to
By this I mean skip the Coldplay, James Morrison and Adele, and instead put on some of your old favourites; ones that will make you want to get up and dance, rather than sit and cry all day. Now, call me odd (I don't mind), but I have a 'happy' playlist on my iTunes, unsurprisingly full of upbeat, motivating songs - usually played when on my way to work…

My favourites from the playlist are:
Here Comes the Sun - The Beatles
On My Way - Charlie Brown
Daylight - Matt & Kim
Roll to Me - Del Amitri
I Lived - OneRepublic

Sad songs make you sad, happy songs make you happy - simple as.

3) Read quotes
You have no idea how much quotes have influenced me through the years. Literally, just a few words on paper have the power to change my mindset completely. I think what makes them so influential is that if they came from the mouth of someone in 'real' life, they would go in one ear and out the other, however reading them on screen for the first time - they seem to hit you like a lightbulb moment - for that moment, at least, you think you've found the answer to solve all your problems - it's like finally someone, understands. 

4) Take an adventure
Be spontaneous - go somewhere new, somewhere you've never been before. Whether this is the park just down the road that you've always considered 'too much effort' to go to, or a 2 hour train journey to a big city that you've never had the opportunity to visit. Wherever it is, go there with a completely open mindset and explore like a tourist. Take yourself on a date to a cosy little cafe you stumble across, sit for hours in a bookshop reading anything from a crime fiction novel to a photography book; showcasing the wonders of the told. Completely disconnect from technology for a day and just do - or discover - what it is that truly makes you happy.

5) Refocus
What is it that you want from life right now? What about in 1 month? In a year? Whatever it is, write it down and focus all your energy onto this list. Know that from where you are at the moment, something has to happen to get you to where you want to be. Be strict on yourself and refuse to sit around having a pity party any longer, and instead get up from your sofa and start making the changes that need to take place to allow you to live the life you imagine. Remember, dreams don't work unless you do.


  1. i need this!! always make the mistake of listening to proper depressing music when i'm feeling down xx

    1. Yes same!! Can you believe I used to have a self-pity playlist?! Absolutely the wrong thing!!xx